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Thursday, December 4, 2008

The Latest Level of Insult

I didn't tell you guys this before, but the IVF clinic never called me yesterday to confirm that no fertilization occurred. The RE who called me Tuesday had told me they would "know for sure" on Wednesday morning and that they would call me. I would be lying if I said the lack of call didn't irritate me, but I feel it's pretty much par for the course with these people. So I got back to my desk this afternoon after 4 and a half hours of meetings and my cell phone went off. It was "Vivian" from the clinic calling to apologize for not calling me yesterday. She said:
  • Dr Keller (my "main" RE) came by and said, "Isn't there something you forgot to do?" and Vivian was just mortified.
  • I replied that it was okay as I just assumed it wasn't good news.
  • Vivian said that yes, she had called back to the lab and they said there had been no change.
  • She told me to stop my meds (yeah, thanks, I did that yesterday, dumbass - I don't do recreational PIO) but that I could continue my prenatal vitamin if I wanted to, if I think I "might want to go forward later on".
  • She said I would get my period within 2 weeks after stopping the meds and that's the time I should call and come in and talk to them about what to maybe do next. After I've had time to "calm down" and "get rid of the hormones" and "talk to hubby" and decide what we want to do.
  • I said, "Okay, thanks for calling." and got off the phone as fast as I could.
Here's how I feel about this:
  1. Could my doctor not have CALLED ME HERSELF today when she realized this had happened? Maybe something along the lines of, "I just found out that you were not contacted yesterday about the lack of fertilization and I am very, very sorry." Hearing from Vivian that she got in trouble from Dr. Keller is REEEEAAAAALLLLY not the same thing and really not something I could give a rat's ass about.
  2. FUCK ALL OF THEM, saying I need to wait until I "calm down" and "get rid of the hormones" before talking about this! If I want to talk about it now, they should DAMNED well talk to me about it now! And I have expressed nothing to them that could possibly construed as anything but calm. Plus, where's the logic in wanting to talk to an infertile woman when she's on her period!?!?!?
  3. They're just losers.
I'm pretty much done with them.

Also, I wanted to say how much I appreciate all of your comments. They really mean an awful lot to me. And, Sarah, you share my sentiments about my RE precisely.


'Murgdan' said...

Seriously...f&^% that! I hope you will really be getting a second opinion. These people seem to all have their heads up their asses.

Courtney said...

Is there another place you can go near where you live? I would have had enough myself- you are paying an ass load of money and they shoudl call when they say they are! Its a fucking phone call to someone who is keeping you employed ass-fucks!

Sarah said...

I was soo mad when I read about that.


*Deep Cleansing Breath*

I think you need to talk to whomever recommended this place, was it George?? If so... he should know they are sucktastic.

Now, I know I'm not the smartest cookie in the jar, but seriously, maturing up some eggs for IVF doesn't sound overly complicated. Lets find a place that has a "yes! let do it!!" attitude!

Jerks. Blah - I'm sorry you had to deal with this.

sharonvw said...

I tried to post a comment on your previous post titled Angry, but I see it never went through. I'm so sorry!!! This sux and I can only say that I think your feelings of anger are being compounded by your clinics poor handling of the situation. I'm glad to hear you're considering going somewhere else, I think that's best given your treatment.
This stuff is difficult enough on its own to deal with without having to put up with such slap dash treatment from your clinic.
I'm really sorry!!!

Jennifer said...

Why does this RE act like they're just processing a bank deposit for you?!?!? You left them with your potential BABIES and they forgot to tell you things weren't going well??? This is akin to a daycare forgetting to tell you your child broke an arm. "Oh we're so sorry. The administrator yelled at me for this already, but I forgot to tell you that Johnny took a header off the slide and has a mild concussion and a giant cast on his arm. Did you want to sign him up to attend again next month? Maybe you should call us after you calm down."

Or, maybe I should take advantage of this moment of chemically-induced rage to choke you with my bare hands!

Time to find a new RE... One who understands that the business of baby making is more than just paper pushing and phone calls. This is emotionally-charged stuff here, and a wee bit of bedside manner is rather NECESSARY!

Stupid people make me crazy. And that's all I have to say about that.

Jen Rusch

Sarah said...

Fuck them.

I think its time to find a new Doctor. And I think once you do, you should write the current office a long detailed letter explaining to them how much they suck and why you're kicking their sorry ass to the curb.

AmyC623 said...

Sarah - I think instead of a scathing letter, I should just send them a link to my blog :-)

AmyC623 said...

Other Sarah - It wasn't George who recommended this clinic (I refuse to call them RE's anymore), it was a co-worker of mine who was ultimately successful in conceiving after 3 IVF attempts with them (I should have known...).

Courtney - If I decide to stay on this IVF train, I will most likely see George's brother, Peter.

Kristin said...

I love what Jen said! And I was thinking of the same daycare analogy!!!

I do have a question about the clinic: were they located in a high school? I mean, they don't sound mature or educated in their "field"..."Um, hi Amy, I am only calling because my teacher chewed my ass out and gave me detention". LOL

Don't give up honey! Find an RE that knows what the hell they are doing and get yourself knocked up!

Lea said...

I hope you find a better clinic. That's is ridiculous. I'm so sorry about this cycle. You deserve to be treated better than that. For sure.

JamieD said...

Oh, Amy. I have been catching up on your blog and I am sick, horrified, disgusted, broken-hearted and sad for you.

What a bunch of fucking ass hats. Excuse my language but I am so angry at how you have been treated.

Let's go break stuff!!

Alex and Jill said...

As much as we pay our RE's, they should go above and beyond, in my opinion.

I'm sorry you've had this level of care. I wouldn't blame you for finding a new doc.

Kalina said...

This is terrible, sorry to hear, Amy. Unbelievable that our future can be in hands of such jokers.
Not sure how difficult it is to change a doctor in the US, but this will be a good idea to have a fresh start.

Misty from wte said...

I'm so sorry, Amy. Don't know if you have checked back with the group, but we are all thinking about you. I hope you seek a second opinion, and that it works out for you. *hugs*

sharonvw said...

Hey Amy
You've been very quiet latley, hope you're ok.
Thinking of you!

Sarah said...

Just dropping by to say a few things to you.

1.) dont throw in the towel! I know(well at least I can speculate) how difficult this has been for you. But from what I gather, you are an amazingly strong woman. You can do this. =)

2.) Happy New Year! 2009 is going to be our year right?! Its just gotta...

misty from wte said...

Amy - just thought I would check in with you. Hope all is going well. Drop a line soon!

Tricia (WTE sister) said...

Hi Amy,

I just wanted to check in with you. See how you were holding up with everything. I can see from Katie's pictures that your guys holiday was pretty nice. I LOVE LOVE LOVE YOUR PRESENTS UNDER THE TREE..ALL BLUE AND WHITE. I am the Christmas Nazi so that is a major complement! Haha!

e-mail me..we should